To be honest car repair shop still works. 4 new tires is in the high hundreds too. If you want to save your relationship you need to keep Tim away from your family, I'd go no contact myself. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns. Which kind of person do you honestly think will be there, when the lights go out? You need to take your fianc and get the hell away from the pack, because theyre already turning on you now that youre stepping out of line and it will only get more vicious. Slashing tires isnt a prank. Its destruction of private property and vandalism. Timmy didn't drive the wedge between you and your family. Pranks are harmless fun. Yeah TBH if my partners family treated me like this I might be rethinking a lot. Except this case you would be freeing both of you from bullying. (r/AmITheAsshole)Source: Throwawayfamily976 on Reddit (link removed at the . It could very easily have been your fianc's literal hill to die on, withholding his medicine. Fuck those guys. NTA. I can't even imagine feeling even slightly like that on a regular basis. Edited to add although YTA for letting it carry on I actually mean ESH. I remember when I was a child- the feeling of pure panic when I couldnt breathe, trying to gasp for air but everytime I took even a shallow breath in it triggered a coughing fit. probably just some well deserved peace and quiet. Congrats on your wedding and good luck! Why have you let this carry on for so long?? Which is what you're doing. If anyone did this to my husband I would have saw red. Imagine what kind of "prank" they would pull at a wedding with a large audience. Yeah, garage would make me think of parking too cause it's the same word in German, but it's sometimes just difficult to remember or think of the various names for services and shops as they either depend on US vs UK (or other places too) or are e.g. Your cousi, brother, uncle and dad are TA for what they have done. This is a hill to die on. The guy: Oh, did you put it in the right spot? Really. Want you to be happy? NTA. The men in your family are a bunch of nut jobs. Anyone who isn't willing to own up like an adult can make other plans. I would go NC with all of them. Those assholes would show up in their hunting gear and make everyone miserable. It took quite a bit of analyzing past incidents and months of research into the topic before it really sank in for me. They are immature, idiot morons All these grownass dudes doing this just cannot see they're actually showing everyone how stupid they'd rather be. Cousin asked if "little timmy ran to me to tattle". You mean the spine that only materialized when her fianc couldve actually died after having already been viciously tormented for years while she apparently just stood back with the occasional protest? I know, right? I agree. Timmy isn't the one driving the wedge. What if he had an asthma attack? Except that the fiance's side of the family hasn't done anything wrong that we know of, and maybe OP and her fiance want a wedding. Ask them how they would like mug shots and restraining orders and if THOSE, decorating your guest sign in table, would increase their respect for you as a couple. My mother tried but my stepdad did not. My dad was an engineer, but he recognized early on that my now-husband was not a 'doer' in terms of being super physical and labor and all that. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns. I would hope there can be some direct communication between everyone to tide things over. The critical thing here is that OP HAS learned that this behavior isn't ok. Good job, OP, for defending your (edit: future) spouse against the abusive men in your family. It's yours. First have the conversation with your fianc if he even wants them there. That could have been fatal. Right. Your fianc could have died! Cool flex I guess? The wedding is just the first step, OP. Maybe don't also make fun of his name and add to the problem? I sent Dean and Kevin invitations but once they found out that our stepdad was going to be there, they said they might not come. Canadian? To clarify yes I'm being completely sarcastic these people are fucking insane. Throughout high school I didn't live with my mom or spend much time with her, which I feel bad about now. . You gotta step up for your man, yourself, and your future children because no way this stops at the wedding. Sounds like Tim is the only real man among them. They're fucking nasty and they're doing it on purpose. NTA, this is taking toxic masculinity to another level. Ask your dad how he feels about the respect that you and Tim have lost for him as a human being?? Send them a video of a grown man having an asthma attack. I basically told him that if he is considering not coming then dont even bother. Go no contact. A prank is like a joke. Asthma can be lethal, especially in a wilderness situation like camping. this. Hiding an inhaler? They dont need to be all macho and emotionally stunted like your dad and family seem to be. NTA- people can die from an asthma attack. AITA for telling my (step)dad that his kids are not welcome in my life ever again? Theyre all examples of toxic masculinity. He's been through enough hazing and taken it in stride for YOUR sake. OP, they should be damn lucky your fiance hasn't just walked away from you and the marriage. These are not pranks. So the cops and court system is the way to go here. Theyre literally vandalizing a vehicle and engaging in medical abuse to prove some sort of sick and twisted toxic masculinity flex. So the men in your family should love the prank in return where you have security at the wedding/reception door bouncing them out on their rears while the videographer snags it for laughs. She wont. i suppose it could be possible, but she wanted to go with me up until she got better seats. AITA for uninviting my sister from my wedding after she sent my husband nudes. Youre a bad girlfriend. Words simultaneously have no meaning at all and all of their possible meanings. Hiding lifesaving medicine? The recipient should be laughing just as hard as the prankster and any observers. Cut them off and reported them for property damage to law enforcement. "It's just a joke!". NTA, I have asthma and that's no joke. I will say though - you NEED to go to bat for him more. They hid his damn inhaler for 3 days. I have been rude and made my fair share of mistakes. NTA this is toxic masculinity and honestly who tf hides an inhaler from an asthmatic?! Some people live paycheck to paycheck and this could break them. Woah. NTA by far. It doesn't matter. The poor stepdad.. Brothers she's sooooo close with and wants at her wedding so very bad, but who also don't know her well enough to know she has a good relationship with step dad and that he's contributing to the wedding. Tell them that real men don't need such immature posturing. This needing to prove he is a "man" is so toxic. You joke, but men let their toxic/insecure masculinity come between them and lifesaving healthcare. Yup, aged neanderthal skeletons that had birth defects or long healed bad wounds that would have left them disabled. AUTOMOD Thanks for posting! NTA - I would suggest checking in with your fianc on how you can best support him and letting him know you stabs by him 100% (this should include after the wedding) It seems strange that the tire slashing wasnt the last straw but it will only escalate if you bend. Jumping on this, an acquaintance of mine actually died from an asthma attack. (I was diagnosed at the urgent care with a failing galbladder. And if I were you, I'd take a real close look at the abuse they've subjected you to. They TOOK his INHALER. Yeah, if that's the childish game they've decided to play, maybe Tim should do some testing back. NTA. NTA. Next time they try to manipulate you into downplaying their behavior by holding their respect for Tim at ransom, tell them they will lose your respect and see how much they care about it, my guess is they won't. But Im gonna take it a step further and say you need to talk to Tim and really make sure that hes ok after all this. Tow it to a tire shop. It's like they're out of It's Always Sunny. NTA. this rubbed me the wrong way but i said fuck it and bought a ticket (90) because im a pretty shy person and thought this would be a good opportunity to get out my comfort zone! What they did could have KILLED your fianc. They specifically use the fact he went college as a way to look down on him, and most people who do that are the same ones who think colleges are brainwashing places that take in nice, innocent, religious, straight conservative teenagers that perfectly mimic thier parent's views and opinions, all to brainwash them into being gay atheist liberals who might even have black or gay friends or worse, gasp even transgender friends. Last week, They took Tim on a 3 day trip and hid his inhaler, he left them and returned in 7hrs and told me, I was seething after he said they admitted to hiding it as a "challenge", I exploded on them when they returned. Be basically disowned his great grandparents and is very mad that my mom still does stuff with them. Who shows you affection and makes you happy and feel loved? They probably feel less than because he's a college boy (that's the thing they have pointed out) so they are all proving that they are actually real men while he isn't. What about them proving to you that they are decent people who love and care about you? Poor guy. This is 200% bullying bordering on harrassment and they need to be punished accordingly. If you still get married don't be surprised if he wants to get out of every family gathering etc if he can to avoid them. By accepting all cookies, you agree to our use of cookies to deliver and maintain our services and site, improve the quality of Reddit, personalize Reddit content and advertising, and measure the effectiveness of advertising. Get away from these people and their toxic masculinity. WTF! Your family sounds awful. this is wildly inappropriate at best, and really not funny. It's also why women who get married have a lower life expectancy. I called him and the others awful then I left. How can four people be so fucked in the head to think it is acceptable to hide much-needed medication from someone?! It was not fun. Tim has your approval. He said that he didn't reply but later I got a call from my mom yelling at me calling me hurtful stuff saying I was acting like an ungrateful b by excluding her husband from the wedding after everything he's done for me, I told her that my brothers threatened not to come which pushed me to make this difficult dicision because if it was for me I'd have everyone there. Im surprised Tim didnt break up with her over it. That's what I was thinking & why I suggested elopement. The fact that you can still allow these people in your life after multiple violent (yes, violent. This is damn near attempted murder. Thank you for writing this so that I didnt have to. Exactly. Guess it would serve him right in their eyes though for being "so weak". They want to live like Neanderthals they can do it elsewhere, not at your wedding. However, she doesn't like her either. Its a very dangerous prank. Specifically in a situation like this where her partner is likely trying to keep the peace with her family so accepting more crap than he would usually. I'd like to see uncle and the other assholes breathe through a straw for a few hours, whith their nose properly plugged. were not shunning her. Ngl he did what he could to help me out with school and everything, he even offered to fund my wedding which is going to be in 5 weeks time and I'm very grateful for that though this was his decision. Being punished isnt going to make them sorry, its going to make them mad. Definitely hold your ground and support your fiance. NTA. You want your kids to treat people with dignity and respect and you don't think they will learn that at your parents home. Youre 3 god damn it! You should have prioritised your fiance earlier. After I graduated my mom and I repaired our relationship and now are best friends. NTA. Privacy Policy. You are NTA unless you reinvite them. If they see that as a joke then their heads arent screwed on correctly. OP is NTA for what she is asking about, but how on earth was the tire stunt not the line drawn in the sand? NTA. You know what that shit is? We know our own families and how to handle them already, so it just makes sense. why would you even want to remain family with a bunch of hazing, assaulting assholes? YTA if you keep allowing this behavior against your guy. Best of luck. They should deal with the consequences. If it was me, they would be the last people on my mind to invite to a wedding." "They dont deserve your time. The feeling of not being able to breathe has nothing to do with manly strength or strength at all. With the cost of the tow and labor you might be talking more than a thousand. Criminal property damage and withholding vital medical equipment are not pranks. Its not like they had OPs permission or OPs husband is a toddler that cannot speak up for himself. NTA. Eeesh. Right? It's obvious they have preconceived ideas on what a real man is (going so far to risk your finances health). He died of the cancer 3 weeks ago. Amen. Try to prank their father out of them? #NTA. He deserves a medal for that. NTA - no matter what kind of person you are, no one should ever belittle you to "test" how you are. The opposite in fact. And now youre questioning whether youre the asshole for uninviting them to your wedding?! It isn't easy to do; it isn't easy to learn when to do it. I'm not sure I had the same wherewithal at that age. His entire family has disowned me and they're all blocked on my phone after sending me awful messages. These are excellent words to throw back in their faces. Cant you do the same for him? This has to be fake. Or die. You don't have to invite people to your wedding that are negative. Honestly.. ESH except for your fianc because you let them abuse him for so long. I feel like it is finally time to cut my dad off but idk AITA? ESH. I will say though - you NEED to go to bat for him more. However your an AH for letting it go on this long. Theyd get one prank. He wants to keep the peace and impress your family because he sees how much it means to you. I think it's great to forgive assholes if they stop, and family unity is important, but if someone is an asshole and will continue to be an asshole and refuses to stop being an asshole, they definitely should be kept as far away as possible. No adult man named Tim wants to be called Timmy. I dont like knowing these guys are running around. OP and little Timmy should have pranked them back by play acting he had. acts against the man you claim to love. These are not pranks. These are not pranks. This mans gonna die. He was not working and she had just retired from the military. He absolutely should have pressed charges and taken OP's family to small claims court over this stunt. I wonder what they would do if OP was engaged to a big dude with anger issues. tell your bf to call the cops and get them arrested for the tire slashing. Bullying and witholding a life saving medication are another. Exactly. Your family straight trash sorry. Talk with Tim about it and ask about his genuine opinion. I agree with other posters here, they are bullies, not pranksters. It's no joke and can be severely deadly. At the time I commented, pretty much everyone was saying NTA. Seriously, my husband had back pain and after many months I finally convinced him to go to the doctor in October of 2021. I know plenty of men that cant hunt, fish or turn a wrench and you know what? Your mom is just as conditioned as you are/were. You dont need to worry about protecting the feelings of your bullies. Then NC. The feeling you get when you need your inhaler is awful. These aren't "tests", this is your family being major fucking AHs. Go slash their tires and egg their cars. Frogs in beds is the kind of thing you do as a KID at CAMP. Be sure to throw in about how they are sissies and not very manly for not making it through this simple challenge without help. Honestly, Tim must really love and value your relationship to put up with all that. I call this sort of thing radioactive stupidity. NTA she was totally unconsiderate to you. I dont see how he can maintain a proper level of mental health while being involved with your toxic family members. A native English speaker would be like yeah, sure whatever, hearing that. NTA OP, I'd grab a tent and camp out on this new hill of yours. Cut them out of the wedding and your life. Yeah NTA sorry doesn't cut it, what if he had an asthma attack? I grew up with a very messed up family. It was really sad she was in her mid 20's like this shit can be life threatening if an attack isn't treated correctly. Honestly, it is astounding that Tim is still with LW. I dont know where you are in the world OP, but where I live slashing someones tyres would be a criminal offence. Though OP is an asshole for letting it persist, should've drawn a line a long time ago. No amount of masculine hobbies excuses that. They refuse to even apologize for trying to kill your fiance. And they just showed you they've no idea where the line between pranks and fatal consequences is. This x10000000000000000. If you feel you need your inhaler, you need your inhaler NOW. OP would also be justifying their behavior by joining in on the "pranks.". Especially if they dont believe his asthma and hid his inhaler till it was too late?? NTA, pranks are all too often used as an excuse to be AH's, let this be a lesson to them that you wont tolerate their BS. Slashing tires and deliberately hiding people's life-saving medications are not pranks - hold your ground and keep them out! I'm really scared that your family will accidentally kill someone with this mentality. I am having a hard time wrapping my head around why OP would let them take him camping. I f25 along with my two brothers Dean & Kevin (both 30s) went through rough time during our parents divorce, mom got married to my stepdad and we lived with him for years. NTA. She still goes all out. So basically your family members thought it'd be funny to see him end up in a life threatening situation. NTA - I'd tell Mom she'd better stfu and stop enabling or else she's going to be uninvited too. Right?! Exactly what she should tell them. Everyone thinks asthma is no serious thing. The fact he still wants to continue in this relationship says a lot about his feelings for you. As a guy, this is beyond "toxic masculinity". Slash my tires? Throw the whole family away and start over. It was infuriating and that was just a case of bad luck. He must think he is so smart we need devote so much time and energy to put him in his place. YNTA, but damn, your family is chock full of them. That should NEVER be something to joke about! She's not an asshole for being related to shitty people. less likely to seek out mental healthcare, source: 40+ years of experience at the sharp end, and a couple of dozen responses to "Help! Or possibly become a divorce soon. People who havent felt like that cant understand just how scary it is. NTA. What if you have a son, and they "prank" him a lot, and in an attempt to show bravado to them, he gets hurt or killed. Mens mental health is important! Who the hell slashes tires as a "Prank" unless you're millionaires? Youre supposed to protect him just like he is you, even if that means from your family. Fuck them. He said its not fair she gets everyone and he gets no one. I admittedly have had a few fights with my dad about how I think she treats me and my brother and sister. Or do they just think hanging with your family is something you have to rush like a frat? I hope she learns to put him before her extended family. Their own insecurities are on full display. Also criminal mischief. Do not compromise on this, theyre irredeemable assholes. This type of ban/suspension is issued by the Reddit site-wide admins. Its your responsibility to make sure your family members are abusing your partner under the disguise of tests and pranks. Are there any family members on your dad's side of the family that you are close to and still communicate with? Everyone should be laughing and no one's life should be in danger over one. Oh gotcha, that makes much more sense then. I would presume that they had a similar experience with him. I literally freaked out because I definately want my brothers to be at my wedding so badly and I tried talking to them but they were being stubborn, after talking to my fiance I had no choice but to politely uninvite my stepdad and sending him an email stating why. Your dad should be proud if he actually values those things and it truly is why tested your fianc. Youre NTA, but if you dont take this stand, Tim will leave you. They put his life at risk, am I getting this right? They shouldnt come. It has been great having her back and we've gotten so close again. They slashes his tires and you did what? Absolutely, Im shocked that they didnt. Sounds like you have a choice to make. Stealing his inhaler and dragging him out into the wilderness?? I explained that if he just came to events and gave it a shot he would see that everyone is good now and is moving forward except him and his wife. These men need help. Asthma is no joke. NTA. A year into it I was informed by my stepdad I needed to take a full time job to help pay for college or they wouldn't pay for anymore of it. Your wedding is about your fianc and you, it doesnt matter if your male relatives miss out if they are causing harm to the person the event is suppose to be celebrating. NTA. What about your future child if you have a boy? But if you only slash 3 tires you have to pay out of pocket. This guy is going to go through an unending life of abuse if he doesn't cut and run. Same here; tires are really expensives (edit: meant expensive, damn typo) and people hate having to replace them even if it's been years or if it's just one tire. I thought that's the person doing the work, just wasn't sure where he'd be working; sometimes my English just says bye haha, Mechanic is a good word! NTA its bullshit toxic masculinity, men do not test each other like this unless they have frail egos themselves. When the complain have him directly tell them to stop whining and take it like men do. They also tested his fishing and hunting skills, overwhelmed him with hypothetical scenarios to test his decision making abilities/mental strength. He's college educated. They likely thought my claims of abuse were unfounded at best and malicious at worst. But they were also educated, kind, accepting, loyal. Ummm he could have died, brain issues due to no oxygen I'm not a Dr. Would it still be as funny if they were arrested for manslaughter. And if my husband had asthma dad would lower his expectations, not attempt murder. They were okay with killing or seriously harming your husband. NTA. Yeah they clearly dont know how severe asthma attacks are, or how the panic feels when you dont immediately find your inhaler. Tim is a better person than most to endure your shitty family. It isn't easy to do; it isn't easy to learn when to do it. NTA. Costing someone financially and putting said persons health at risk are not pranks NTA. Perhaps we just have very different perspectives on this. Live your life, be Happy, graduate, write on reddit, do whathever you want with YOUR Life. Contest mode is 1.5 hours long on this post. They think it's ok to abuse and bully others. Blood relations dont necessarily need to be your family. I bet the pranksters are anti-vaxxers too. Asthma is scary as hell! They deserve to be uninvited. NTA. Life saving medication! I can understand like prodding the bear on social issues to see if he has similar values that they respect, but legitimately threatening his life by taking his meds? Slashing tires costs money and time and possibly work. Asthma can kill and as someone with asthma not knowing where my emergency inhaler is can cause anxiety as I may need it to save my life. I already knew that answer after you said they slashed his tires, NTA. OP's family isn't awful, they are abusive. NTA. "My stepdad did what he could "I literally freaked out because I definitely want my brothers to be at my wedding so badly and I tried A woman has been slammed after uninviting her stepdad from her wedding, . Hiding inhaler is not a joke and slashing his car tires, i assume they paid money to get things right? Please view our voting guide here, and remember to use only one judgement in your comment. This enraged him and our relationship never recovered. Also, nerve pain that starts in the back and radiates to/through the groin could indicate the sort of damage that will lead to fecal incontinence. Just they just seem like big bullies to me. Um you both didnt cut off contact after his tires were slashed? Wow, what the fuck?? I have asthma and reading that gave me chills. I would not have put up with them especially when they slashed my tires. NTA, and honestly I'd go no contact until they grow the fuck up. "Like real men. Agreed. I idolised and adored my father to the point whereby I resented my mother. I have a sister 18f that got married to her highschool sweetheart. Guarantee hes hoping youre that kind of person, OP. Who do they think they are? Because they'll show up to the wedding and proclaim themselves as MeN tHaT aRe Up FoR tHe ChAlLeNgE. NTA. Just stuck a needle in my back and tapped me like a maple tree. As a person with asthma, I see their prank as abhorrent. Probably should have been too. Have your fianc sit down with the four of them (with you present) and tell them to their faces they are not invited. Would they have waited to see if he could start breathing on his own like a real man? 5th house stellium meaning; how to handle being dumped with dignity; send a wave on facebook; international scout.He wrote: " AITA for uninviting my mom from my . Her brothers don't care enough to be in her wedding if they are in the same room as another person they don't like. Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. Id tolerate an event with lots of people where they were there but I didnt have to speak to them. Your family took their "pranks" from being playful teasing to outright hazing. They've shown they aren't capable, loving, supportive people. I do not understand how they were not uninvited after the tire slashing. Were I Tim Id be rethinking marrying you. And these pranks and challenges are NOT typical men stuff. Attempted murder. Uninviting them to the wedding is the least thing, they're just going to retaliate for their whole lives. Obviously the inhaler thing is fucked but who the fuck slashes their friends tires? Sometimes, even when we are justified in going no contact, we can later regret it, and then the whole argument for it in the first place feels less important and we focus on what we can never have. Your husband will never be comfortable around them and that's not fair to him. Time to cut those toxic people out of your lives. And I'd take it all the way to the wedding unless there's a huge apology to your man and they back off for real. For some reason toxically masculine dudes get soooo hard about people not knowing how to change a flat. So, yeah - man up and die for real. Let mom know your full feeling and the risks they took. I was still taking care of my younger brothers. You're TA for continuing to subject your furnace to them. Do not just uninvite them from your wedding, uninvite them from your life. I'm so sorry you're going through this OP. NTA for uninviting them to the wedding but you are huge AH for not shutting their antics down sooner and continuing to subject Tim to these bullies. Id be long gone by the time they were slashing my tires. Wtf is your dad smoking? Redditor aitamumuninvited is a 31-year-old man whose mother did not wholly embrace her future daughter-in-law because of something she did. 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